I believe it takes the exact same faith for a woman to submit to her Godly husband that it takes for a Godly husband to trust and submit to God… a personal opinion obviously. They can both be difficult because of humanities insecurities.
I didn’t say any of this was easy. The man has to believe he is hearing from God… and then the woman has to decide whether she believes he is hearing from God or not. If he is doing his best to follow God… will the woman allow him to make mistakes and believe that God will eventually get the man where he is supposed to be? You would have to lovingly support him and not criticize him. That is tough.
But if he does hear God and he does what God tells him… then he is going in the right direction even if everything looks wrong. God wants the husband and wife to communicate. It is important that the wife does not become the leader all the time. If the man wants to hear from God… he will hear from God when he hears from God. Be sure that both of you are baptized in the Holy Spirit with the evidence of speaking in tongues. God is about to kick everything into overdrive and you need His power for the rest of the trip.
Remember that God did chew Adam out for listening to his wife… rather than listening to Him. God had already given Adam instructions. Genesis 3:17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life.
Remember… Abraham said, “Well, let’s go honey… God said it’s time to move and I don’t know where we are going.” It was difficult for both of them… but he had to decide whether he would follow God or not. And Sarah had to decide whether she would allow him too and go with him. She had to have faith in God that her husband was hearing Him.
Not everyone wants to follow where God leads them. If the husband won’t go… then nobody is leading. But if the husband is willing… anyone who is not willing will eventually… over time… fall away. Another personal opinion.